If you treat your cat with
if you treat your cat with respect, if you treat your cat as if he or she is an intelligent, thinking animal, capable of making decisions, your cat will respond in positive, astonishing ways.
You must present a clear picture for your cat of exactly what makes you happy. We don't have to dominate our cats with corrective techniques, we just have to go overboard on all the things our kitties do properly. Cats that feel good about themselves will behave better for you.
Learn to communicate with your cat. Listen to his or her different meows and learn to interpret their meaning. Pay attention to Kitty's body language and not only will you better understand your furry little companion, but you may be able to pick up early warning signs indicating illness.
from How to Get Your Cat to Do What You Want by Warren Eckstein and Fay Eckstein